For Brian Wolf, the Chicago marketing manager, the best solution for combating his own undateability was to take matters into his own hands. This spring, he launched Settleforbrian.com. Mr. Wolf says his site is what major online dating services would be if everyone were honest. Though he writes on the site that his nose is big and he doesn’t want kids, he also touts his sense of humor and good job: “I’m by no means perfect, but you could also do a lot worse. … In the end, you’d probably be happier with me than chasing the dream of Mr. Right.”
The upfront technique appears to be working. So far, Settleforbrian.com has netted more than 86,500 visitors in just over three months. He has received about 600 emails, gone on three dates, and says he’s feeling more hopeful about his love life than he ever has before: “I’m going to keep this up until I meet the right girl.”
Brian has a Great approach - an obvious desire to be honest and be respected for that honesty!
Even if you’re not looking for someone in the Slovenia, you’ve just got to check out his website! If only for entertainment purposes! It’s worth it :)
Betting Your Love Life On His “Potential”
Via Christian Carter - Women don’t base their choices of men on how “nice” or “good” someone is to them day-to-day. Women choose the men based on a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them. And because of this ”attraction” some women will continue to put up with a guy that doesn’t treat them very well for months or even years. These women confuse the strong attraction they feel for the guy with a deeper “connection”. Women who do this are doomed to end up in failed relationships with the “wrong” guys.
To be honest, I can’t think of a single argument with this “mistake.” I know several women who make the same mistakes time and again. And to matters even worse - is to realize I was one of those “women” for a very long time.
My personal belief is - many women are caretakers by nature. And just as so many of us experience that “biological clock” ticking when our desire to become mother’s peaks out, women can often be drawn to men who “need” them for the very same reasons.
Many women define themselves by how well they take care of their boyfriend, husband, family… and in the process of finding their own definition, will lose sight of who they are and what it takes to make them happy.
While knee deep in the single scene, this was without doubt the single-most challenge I had to learn to overcome. Always drawn to the men who needed ME to FIX them - I lost myself somewhere along the way. It wasn’t until I’d entered a relationship that resulted in both physical and emotional abuse of both me and my children, that I realized that it wasn’t my place to FIX anyone! I had all the “mothering” I could handle right there in my kids.
It took my putting myself on a type of restriction and placing my children above ALL things for me to break the habit of dating the “wrong” guys. But there are those women who don’t have children to put first - so what might they do instead? Pets? Friends? Family?
If you’re close friend were consistantly dating the “wrong” men, what advice would you give to perhaps help them to break the bad habit?